Marriage Relationships and Communication - Learn 7 Communication Tips to Spark Those Loving Feelings

Do you know how many couples drift apart and lose the closeness in their marriage? Most people are aware of how words can hurt their spouses, but are you also aware of how you can use your words to build up you partner and your marriage?

There is a proverb in the Bible that says the power of life and death is in the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Here are seven ways you can start adding more life to your marriage through your speech.

1. Affirmation

Affirmation is telling our mate about his or her positive qualities. Early in our relationship this is easy.

However, everyone has both positive and negative traits. Over time, you may get so focused on the negative that you forget the positive traits your spouse has. Find something you appreciate about your spouse and tell them about it.

2. Telling the truth in love

We need to be honest with our partners even about small things. If your spouse discovers that you have lied about something, however small, it creates suspicion in their heart. They may wonder if you have lied about other things.

3. Focused listening

Focus on what your spouse is telling you; eliminate distractions, such as television, newspaper, or doing the dishes. Too many times we are planning our response before the other person even finishes their point.

4. Remember your spouse is not a mind reader

Even if you have been married forty years, your spouse still needs you to communicate with them. State your desires plainly and let them know what you expect from them.

5. Clarification and feedback

This makes sure that you understood your spouse. You can say, "Did I hear you say the pig is stuck in the chimney?" This allows your spouse to clarify by saying, "No, I said I picked up your brother Jimmy". Many misunderstandings could be prevented with this one simple step.

6. Reminiscing

Many couples forget the attraction that brought them together initially. Reminiscing enables you to reflect on happy memories which evokes loving emotions

7. Back to the future

When you discuss your future dreams together, it creates a sense of permanence. It helps you visualize the future and brings security into the present. This assures your partner that you plan to be there to fulfill that dream with them.

Keeping That Loving Feeling

Many couples are focused on the relationship problems and use negative, hurtful words. Initially it may take a lot of energy to find positive words to say to each other. However, the effort will help bring more intimacy to your marriage.